Since we've got "love" on the mind, it's a good time to face the facts:

Marriage is hard!

We go into it googly-eyed, and wake up disgusted, at times, with our mates, and at other times frustrated with ourselves for how we are treating our beloved! I remember the disappointment I felt when I realized I wasn't the perfect wife - and often I was the opposite! I was (am) so selfish! Then, I read Matt. 19:12b (the Message) and it transformed my guilt.

"...if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it."

 The phrase might not look like something that should free me from my guilt, but I noticed it said "grow into." That means we're not supposed to have all the answers when we say "I do." We're going to be learning and growing into this large thing called "marriage" until one of us "checks out." Aaaah...You aren't supposed to know it all - and here is the kicker - neither is your spouse. So go easy on each other. You're still learning.